Behind the Wheel: Carrying the Weight of Responsibility

For most college students, having a car is freedom. It means the ability to go to class, work, and anywhere else on their own schedule. For me, my car is a necessity. I commute to school every day, often driving long stretches of busy highways and crowded intersections. But with that independence comes a heavy weight. Every time I sit behind the wheel, I feel a knot in my stomach, a mix of responsibility and fear. That fear does not come from nowhere. It comes from what I have seen, what I have heard, and what I know all too well: driving is dangerous, and sometimes it feels like the odds are against us. As a student, I constantly hear about people my age dying in car accidents. Friends-of-friends who did not make it home from a night out. Classmates whose names appear in campus-wide emails with somber words like “in memory of.” I have driven past fresh accident scenes more times than I can count. The twisted metal, the broken glass, and that eerie silence after the sirens have faded all stay with me. Those moments replay in my mind when I drive, and they make me hyper aware of how fragile life is on the road.

I am not alone in feeling this anxiety. Many of my peers talk about it too. We are expected to juggle classes, work, internships, and social lives, and all of that depends on being able to get behind the wheel safely. But what driver’s education does not always teach, at least not deeply enough, is just how quickly things can go wrong. Driver education is essential, and I am grateful I had a good instructor who taught me the rules of the road. But what I really wish it emphasized more was the emotional weight of driving. It is not just about turn signals and right-of-way rules. It is about understanding that every second behind the wheel is a life-or-death responsibility. The statistics are overwhelming. Over 34,000 people die every year from driving-related accidents in the United States. That is more than the number of soldiers who died in Iraq and Afghanistan combined. When I read that in just two years, more people die from car accidents than in the entire Vietnam War, it makes my heart race. These are not just numbers. These are people with families, dreams, and futures. Many of them are students just like me, trying to make it to class or get home after a shift at work.

So how do we change this? I think it starts with education that goes beyond just passing the driving test. We need more real conversations in high schools, in colleges, and in driver’s education classes about the gravity of driving. We need young drivers to see images of what accidents really look like, to hear stories from survivors, and to understand that it is not something that only happens to other people. We also need to fight against the normalization of distracted driving. I have seen friends text at stop lights or check notifications on the highway. I know they think it is just a second. But I have also seen what that second can cost.

Personally, I have committed to several steps to become a better, safer driver. First, I never touch my phone while driving, not even at red lights. I keep it on “Do Not Disturb” mode so I am not tempted. I also leave early for class or work so I am not rushing, because speeding only increases the danger. Most importantly, I have learned to pull over and take deep breaths when I feel overwhelmed or anxious on the road. My mental state behind the wheel matters just as much as my knowledge of the rules. Being safe is not just about my own habits. It is also about helping others. I have started speaking up when I am in the car with friends who drive recklessly. I used to feel awkward telling someone to slow down or put their phone away, but after everything I have seen, I cannot stay silent anymore. It is not about nagging. It is about caring enough to say something. We also need to support each other in making smart decisions, like calling a rideshare if someone has been drinking or offering to drive when someone is too tired.

I know I will probably always have some anxiety about driving. But I have also learned that fear can be a teacher. It reminds me that every time I turn the ignition, I am responsible for my life and for others. I cannot control every driver on the road, but I can control my decisions, and I can influence others by setting an example. In the end, I believe that driving safely is one of the most powerful ways we can protect ourselves and each other. It is not just a skill. It is an ongoing commitment. As a college student who relies on my car to chase my goals, I also carry the responsibility of making it home and making sure others do too. That weight is heavy, but it is one I am willing to carry with focus, caution, and care.