The Cost of One Text

When you first sit down in Driver’s Ed, they tell you “Don’t text and drive.” It’s a message that resonates with many, repeated like a mantra throughout our learning experience. Everyone has heard it, and almost everyone has said it at some point, yet still, the question remains: how many of us truly grasp the significance of this warning? For a long time, it felt like most of my friends and family members were guilty of texting while driving. We thought we were invincible, that a quick glance at our phones wouldn’t lead to any serious consequences. That was before we learned a hard and painful lesson.

In April of 2023, my life took a devastating turn when my cousin lost his life in a tragic car accident. The day started off like any other, but in an instant, everything changed when we got the call that no one ever wants to receive—an accident had occurred, and my cousin was gone. The overwhelming grief made it difficult to process the news. Details began to emerge, and we learned from the Highway Patrolman that he had been texting while driving. Distracted in that moment, he didn’t turn in time, and the car rolled multiple times down a hill before finally coming to rest. The shock of the loss was indescribable, leaving a gaping void in our family filled with grief and regret.

During the funeral, the atmosphere was heavy with sorrow. It was during this time that my other cousin and I began to reflect on the fragility of life. We discussed the importance of safe driving—how a moment’s inattention could lead to irreversible consequences. In that somber setting, we committed to changing our own habits. We realized that it wasn’t merely about obeying the law; it was about protecting ourselves and others on the road. That day became a pivotal moment for us.

Our parents, determined to combat this dangerous behavior, started researching solutions. We downloaded apps specifically designed to limit phone usage while driving. These applications would block notifications and prevent us from texting or browsing while the car was in motion. Additionally, we invested in hands-free phone mounts so that we could safely access navigation and calls without diverting our attention from the road. Using voice commands was a game-changer, allowing us to keep our focus where it was needed most.

As we explored these tools, we also took the time to educate ourselves on the dangers associated with phone usage while driving. We were appalled at the statistics that were available—data that should have sent chills down our spines long before tragedy struck. For instance, texting while driving increases the likelihood of crashing by an astounding 23 times; just a few seconds of distraction can lead to life-altering consequences. Realizing that even a brief lapse in judgment could completely change the trajectory of our lives was both sobering and eye-opening.

While we understand that we may never fully heal from this loss, we have chosen to channel our pain into a commitment to raise awareness about the dangers of texting while driving. We now make a concerted effort to encourage others to reflect on their habits and consider the true cost of a text message. We firmly believe that my cousin’s story can serve as a powerful cautionary tale—a vivid reminder that the thrill of texting while driving is a dangerous gamble, one that far too many people are willing to take.

Ultimately, our aim is straightforward: we want to ensure that no other family has to endure the heartache that we have experienced. We strive to remind everyone that the phrase “Don’t text and drive” is not just a line recited in Driver’s Ed; it’s a critical principle with the potential to make the difference between life and death on the road. Through our advocacy, we hope to foster a community that prioritizes safety—one where every driver understands the importance of remaining focused and where texts can wait until they reach their destination.

In sharing our story, we hope to touch hearts and change minds. Each time we speak about our experience, we aim to highlight the reality of distracted driving and its consequences. We want others to understand that their actions behind the wheel can have lasting implications—not just for themselves, but for the loved ones waiting at home. Awareness can be a powerful tool in preventing tragedies, and it’s one we intend to wield with urgency and purpose. Together, we can create a safer driving environment, reducing the chances of similar heart-wrenching stories playing out in the future. Let’s work together to ensure that safety takes precedence over a text message.